Learning to say "NO"

Learning to say "no" has been my biggest challenge.  Are you an approval addict, who craves the approval of others? The "caregiver" who takes care of everyone and everything?  Do you give so much to everyone that you have nothing left for yourself? Do you work full time, take care of your children, spouse, other family members, and fall on the couch exhausted at the end of the day dreading starting over tomorrow?  I did.  I wanted to please everyone, take care of everyone, and need the approval that that came with doing that.  I am learning to say "No", and have learned that it is not hurting anyone, or not disappointing anyone.  Do you need one night a month to go have dinner with your best girlfriend?  Take the time. Do something for you.  In one night, your house will not fall apart, your kids will welcome you you home, and you will feel so much better for the time you took for you.  Or is it that you do not have the money to join a gym, or buy diet products or even fresh fruits and vegetables?  I can remember after being on Suddenly slim for 14 days, looking at my husband and saying, "What do we (as a family) need to do without next month so I can stay on my diet program?"  I remember seeing the stunned expression on his face, and his lack of a response.  I felt that good after just 14 days, that I was willing to say no to luxury expenses of buying lunch everyday, eating out as a family once a week, couponing to save on our household basics, just to keep myself on Suddenly Slim.  Eventually he responded "You need to start selling First Fitness, atleast enough to pay for the products you use."  So I packed my lunch most days, learned that I could save a minimum of $20 a week using coupons, get my fruit and veggies on sale, and went public on FaceBook that I was changing my life, adopting a healthy lifestyle, and losing weight.  Those first few BEFORE pictures were painful.  Was that really me at 185 pounds? 
Is there not enough time in the day?  Are you struggling to add in 30 minutes of walking or excercise?  That was always my excuse.  I was not willing to take the time.  But as I said, it was my excuse.  My reality was, I do not like to excercise.  I still do not like to excercise.  But I have learned that if I want to stay at 135 pounds and be healthy, I need to excercise.  I still get up at 5am, just like always.  But now I spend my first 30-45 minutes 3-4 days a week on excercise.  Do I like to excersice now?  No, but do I need to, YES.  I watch my favorite show that I DVRed while walking on the treadmill. The best part is, that I have it done and can spend the rest of my day not dreading it.  If you feel that there is just not enough time in your day, evaluate.  Keep a journal for a few days, see how you spend your time.  Could you watch your favorite TV show while walking on the treadmill?  If you have small children like I do, spend 30 challenging them to Wii Dance.  If its nice outside, take them for a walk, bikeride, or my new favorite is to spend 30 minutes on the trampoline with them.  Every minute you devote to you will help you to be a better mom, spouse, coworker, and enable you to give more to those in your life.

Happy New Year

Happy New Year and Welcome to 2012.
Have you made your 2012 resolution?  Did you resolve to lose weight?  How many times have you started a "diet", only to lose weight, and eventually gain it back?  One thing I have learned thru my weight loss journey is: weight loss is not a diet, it is a choice to live a healthy lifestyle.  There is no quick fix, or a diet pill that lets you eat fried chicken, cake, or drink 5 sodas a day.  To lose weight and maintain your weight lose, you have to chose a different life style.
 Are you ready for a lifestyle change?
 Are you ready to lose weight, get healthy and feel great?